Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Saturday, February 28, 2009

When our Children get sick- Keeping it LIGHT!

Happy Weekend All! Happy Mardi Gras!!!!



We are finally all back on our feet after the nasty gastro that gripped our family for nearly 2 weeks.  I have managed to get back my appetite enough to prepare meals again- hooray !

I do not like being sick nor playing the bathroom cleanup fairy and shall we say that awaking multiple times a night reminds me of nights on call responding to the in 's and outs of bodily functions of my adorable patients

 It is altogether different when the whining patient is your preteen daughter who is having a fit because her hair , recently straightened and washed,  is in the way of projectile vomitus and I can do nothing to assuage her ! It is at times like these which are rather bittersweet, happy to be of aid to my own children during their discomfort with illness yet, noting that it is far easier to care for patients because there is no personal stuff to get in the way of treatments!


So I have been musing alot over these past days away from my blog world and there are a few things I wanted to share:
Taking time to honor great things happening in the world like---
  • I so loved Obama's Congressional Address - he delivered a clear message to Americans about his objectives regarding  Energy, Health care, and Education.  He drew a line for all to see about how these three issues were necessary to address NOW because they impact  the economic picture so acutely. Hooray for logical,bright leaders who can see the forest and the trees.  
Taking time to notice nature's beauty----
  • It has been magnificent these last few days with far reaching rays of gorgeous Mediterranean sunlight  beaming through the french windows.... taunting spring to arrive early!
Taking time to be a bit creative---
  • I have been  sketching up ideas for my horrific garden, which is styled to date in early hillbilly. Yes, my husband is a pack rat, so is my son and OK, I admit to having 8 french,iron beds,in parts mind you , in a corner near the outbuilding....I feel a decluttering coming along. And no, we have no chickens,roosters or pigs.

  • For the children/ adolescents here the transition back to school was slowed as I mentioned due to virus ville,here at the bohemian mini chateau, I advise pushing them to regain their rhythm with sports and studies( I was a tad eager and ended up doing a round trip to the city where my daughter attends school some 1hour away after she redecorated the girls bathroom- if you follow my drift.... 
  • Oh the positives of virus season, you ask- easily inspired weight loss, decrease in the grocery bills for 2 weeks -oh and excuses for long naps and family movie time.
THANKS AGAIN  to those of you who kindly alerted me to the problem of being able to follow my WDF- I hope I was able to fix it! Let me know if it persists! 
photos credit-victorian images

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Gratitudes a Corrective Lens for our Attitudes during the Gray season of Winter!



 

 


 

 

Here are some of my favorite gratitudes of the St. Valentine season which I share with you as my gift !

 

  1. As I sit here by my frosty window looking upon the vineyards in their winter grace, I give thanks for the heat we have- blessed thing called central heating using town gas- HOOOORAY!

 

  1. I am truly grateful that Daddy is in Atria, hidden from the realities of the irresponsible financial worldwide crisis- he would be really outraged by the government handling of the bailout and the Mad-Off scam.  Really, to truly appreciate this one must imagine Dad watching this unraval on TV ,Fox and C-Span, as was his routine, then imagine his sorrow and anger and fears he would have  had experienced about his nest egg. Lest it be said ,his angels have protected him from this scandal - and for this I am truly grateful he is insulated by those whose focus is supremely  about his comfort!!! And so when you all visit  him this season, try not to fret , and recall that the Atria is his haven , divinely chosen!

 

  1. I am grateful for Mom that she after so many intense years of trying to provide relief and conforting connections each day with Daddy, that she has a more life- giving solution in place for both of them and can  appreciate him  now through a more positive lens within his haven at the Atria.

 

  1. I am grateful I have had a head start on living a more simple life-
  2. I am grateful for our new President Obama and pray each day that he is protected and allowed to fulfill his missions with the assistance of our hopeful nation.
  3. I am grateful for my blessed children with their bilingual, or trilingual, skills and their adaptive abilites in this ever changing world
  4. I am grateful for my soulmate, Thierry, who is  a man who lives each day as though he were already in heaven- yes, I know, not entirely profitable or practical sometimes, but, his heart is well intentioned and he loves me in his own way.
  5. I am grateful for the time I have had to spend with my family- focused on them not patients or projects.
  6. I am grateful for having seen the light of change and of perceiving the collapse of the bubbles, housing and credit and lifestlye- noting , I could not feasibly maintain living a script from Dad and Mom's generation -in otherwords , for noting the cheese has moved and so must I.
  7. I am grateful for our food, our gas tanks when full, for crazy glue ,(which worked to keep my window from falling as a drove, the repair of the mechanism was trop cher.)for my sweet dogs, Aunt Betty-Bailey and Uncle Ralph-Nutella who are attentive to never leave my side,
  8. For medicine, for internet, for our working telephones, our fireplaces which brings back to days in Vermont with all of you, for friends old and new, for my creativity which spells out solutions to cramped living spaces and various other quandries.
  9. Lastly, I give thanks for all of you, and each of you- you bring a special something into my life even from afar, the shared memories, which now we know represent one of the most important and comforting gifts of all!

 

Even when it might appear one does not remember or understand , I always believed standing beside my various patients afflicted with severe disorders ,traumas or neurologic diseases - that though we , on the outside think they are not connecting with us ,

 

 on the inside or rather on the otherside, on the other plane, they are fully or even more fully, understanding our intentions and our love to connect in that moment. THUS---- The quality of the moment is more important than we ever thought possible! So to each of you I send hugs and kisses and gratitudes !!!!

 love 

Moi

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Capping corporate greed and the Health Care Model

Firstly, I must share some of new finds in the blog world- real gems---
The Pink Cowboy -well written, funny at times , poignant at others,love that he shares his own experiences and not
 just his observations- the design is fab!




 - here is writer who has class, elegance and is consistently updating her blog

High Desert Diva-a spunky, creative diva who has charmed me with Americana and her photos

Thank you all for your sharing !
Secondly, I read an interesting blog post on MSN - Obama pay cap puts overdue squeeze on bank CEOs
Posted Feb 04 2009, 02:28 PM by Anthony Mirhaydari


I think it was well written and covered the issues succinctly! Right, this is something I can not seem to do  lately, my run on sentences and dangling participles are out of control, but, do troll on if you dare! These"wall street monkeys", as I call them, gambled away the American dreams of so many during the past 8 years !! Their outrageous risk taking with other people's money created  the Fleecing of America grace à Bush/Cheney's policies.
  
Right, you may detect a sour taste here at WDF, and you would indeed be right.  You see fellow bloggers, I witnessed, both as a physician and a patient ,the evisceration of the American health care system by the insurers who operated with the so called " business model of Wall Street" Here is how it worked:
- they answered first to their stockholders and paid board of directors ,
-then to their top-heavy administrators, who over a five year period from 2001 to 2005, received a 100% increase in salaries
- and somewhere after advertising, accounting manipulations,ie kiting ,they dealt with paying for health care!!!  After a little whose bill is it pingpong .....An upside down arrangement for sure!

 Meanwhile the small businesses and families of Rhode Island ( a microcosm of America, being the smallest state) sustained  20% increases each year for 5 years- thus a family plan originally costing 425USD per MONTH increased over this period to over 1000USD per MONTH-not including the costs of medications and supplemental fees. 

And we wonder why most Americans have no health insurance?( for those following this from other more civilized nations where health care is a right and not a privilege - this seems outrageous!!!) ps the doctors do not , I repeat, DO NOT see any of this profit because of the strict regulations set forth by the government to date by medicare and a complicated formula similar  to a derivative

For me, the corporate manipulations of the medical system was just the tip of the economic crash's iceberg! Shall we say foreshadowing? 

How could the medical world dedicated to caring for the sick and suffering have allowed these parasites, often masquerading in nonprofit status (ie BCBS), to bleed off the very best  medical system in the world to the point where it now stands at 27 by WHO standards. Luckily, France is #1 and still directed by physicians.
 
Why did so many of my colleagues leave practice early?  because among other things, they were in moral conflict with themselves to withhold care from patients to obtain, what I called, "kickbacks" but, the insurers called incentives, bonuses! sound familiar?

For me the demise of the American economic Wall Street driven system FIRST took its toll on the weakest of the weak; the sick and the naivest of the workforce ;the doctors and nurses. These third party players placed antitrust laws on doctors preventing them from gathering to discuss fees or collaborative platforms to address these issues to protect patients.  They placed gag rules preventing doctors from communicating to their patients about the insurer's incentives. They  passed the risks onto the physicians, hence the malpractice insurance costs went up as more and more patients experienced the fallout of this process wherein the almighty dollar came before the primary intention to heal.

Why do I say the doctors and nurses were naive? Because they thought that everyone was working toward the same goal on behalf of the patients. Rather, the objectives of the insurers could not have been more diametrically opposed to this goal. 

 The insurers used monies to create warm and fussy advertisements to seduce the businesses but, their modus operandie  sp? was to create a quagmire of ridiculous paperwork, billing procedures, audits, oversight subsidiaries who were  made up of  non clinicians  geared toward debating with the doctors about their choices of medications , treatments or services. Hence, more than 60-70% of clinicians'  time in the USA was spent tackling the paperwork and billing codes to JUSTIFY their clinical decisions. Talk about regulation and capping earnings!  Hellllooo!

Now ,you are no doubt wondering why I have linked my experience with managed care medicine to the financial collapse of the Wall Street....it is because the greedy fed on the weak or highly distracted medical world first before it went onto feed on the home buyers and credit markets in the USA and EU, China, Russia...
At least this is how I see it.



For me leaving my work as a pediatrician, trained at an Ivy League Medical Center, and who experienced the realities of being a patient at the mercy of care plans which were directed by the greed from those in control, the 3rd party payer corporations yes, who were bought and sold on Wall Street ,breath--- I can tell you frankly, I saw this financial downturn coming! Why so many experts have denied understanding this infection of the financial systems is beyond belief and borders on disillusionment.

Lastly, on a more positive note:
  • I am glad Daschle withdrew, he was as related in the NYT and THE NATION in bed with these 3rd Party Payers, United Health etc. earning millions from them-  this is much more of a detriment to avoiding taxes.
  •  I am confident in Obama to find the right fit for health care reform, I am rooting for a physician or nurse or someone with more experience with patients.
  • Those of you who know me personally, know I fought not just my cancer, to stay in practice, to keep food on the table for my children and good education in the picture for my children but, also,to stage protests in the dead of winter at an Insurer, to help my patients access their care,  to serve as an advocate for what is  a human right not a privilege of ONLY the wealthy, to gain media support from major networks, to question the editors of major newspapers about their conflict of interest taking big  advertising dollars from insurers and not featuring the real new of the abuses at RIBCBS, to write and lecture and teach about how to be proactive when disease or trauma strikes- and yes, I would say, I am tooting my own horn or as we used to say about my Sicilian Grandma, I am on my soap box. 



However,as is true to form, from my Grandma in the factories defending the rights of immigrant women during the depression, to my Father as he fought to bring pediatric surgical and intensive care up to the forefront in RI, Italy, Argentina, to my cousin who was one of the first to challenge (and win against) the Vatican regarding the Priest abuses - I hope I have been of service to a cause greater than myself.  I so miss practicing, I miss my patients, watching them grow, advising them, being there for them. I see it as the end of a love affair yet,  I know that the future hold  promise with the intention for HOPE and CHANGE.  Thanks for listening to me rant about a subject close to my heart.



Sunday, December 28, 2008

Post Holiday Shopping, nope- I will have none of that!


Just like the guys at
Extremely Poor Richard’$ Almanac
we are working on the premise that old fashioned fun is back in style. yes, how cozy can sitting around the fire playing cards and making cookies or preparing a luscious pasta dinner be....no reason to feel consumer deprived...saving is what it is all about,the cool crowd do not waste nor want...a return to the basics, heck, I may try knitting. From their site you can check out Jane Fonda's Dad in the photo from Grapes of Wrath, a cheerful film for the kids -it will make them count their
blessings for internet and all things techy! and I thank corine at
Hidden in France for her lead to yet the new funny link above-Bravo!


ps photo credit unknown save for Julien24340612 jpeg, if you know please ,do tell